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Heroes
are In
Heroes Are Still In:
Ten ways to keep the hero image.
There’s a raging movement out there to discredit the hero.
It started with the notion that women could be heroes too (something
men knew all along). It transformed in to a rumor that any man who
tried to be a hero was old age. That he wasn’t sensitive,
and was probably a chauvinist pig. No one could say who started
the rumors, or why they would want anyone to believe them. But the
story backfired. Today, more than ever, women still flock to the
gallant superman. Though he doesn’t like to shop, doesn’t
often cry, and still enjoys hard core action flicks, the women think
there’s nothing better than a man who would risk his own life
for the sake of something (anything) honorable.
There isn’t anything uncommon about potential heroes. Most
men are heroic by nature, but the opportunity for a noble act of
heroism might only come once or twice in a life time, and no one
who would brag about it afterwards looks at all laudable. So how
do you remind the girl you’re with that you still ‘have
it in ya’? How do you solidify her picture of you as her hero?
- Take care of mom. Don’t over do it. No
one likes a momma’s boy. Send her some flowers once in a
while, and take care of her heavy chores. The way a man treats
his mother reflects on the way he’ll treat his wife…and
women know it.
- Do the dirty work. If you’re worried
about getting dirt beneath your nails, she’ll never see
you as more than a prissy Romeo. She needs to see sweat and dust
mixture sometimes. Not just from exercising, but from genuine
hard labor. Clean up before trying to cash in on this…sometimes.
- Carry as much as possible. Whether you’re
taking out the trash or carrying groceries, take as much as you
can handle. It’ll mean fewer trips and show off your strength
at the same time. She might complain about it, and tell you to
watch your back, but she secretly admires it.
- Help her friends with ‘man stuff.’
Help them fix their car or carry a load. They’ll brag on
you to her, and she’ll feel the exhilaration of owning a
public gentleman. Needless to say, the less attractive her friends
are, the less likely this will backfire.
- Stay Positive. She needs to feel safe in the
shadows of dilemma and uncertainty. The more confidence you have,
the more she will. This isn’t to promote arrogance. Strutting
like a peacock won’t work. You need to encourage her when
she’s down. And if she’s worried about you, help her
keep everything in prospective. Show her that there’s always
an upside.
- Be patient with children. You’ll never
see the TV superhero yell at a child. Your kids, her kids, siblings,
or nephews and nieces…always tolerate the young ones with
a silent grin. That’s not to say you have to become a wet
nurse, just don’t be indifferent.
- Give to charity. The more practical, the better.
Adopting an endangered species is for the sensitive type, and
designed to make people feel good about themselves. Feeding the
poor is a true act of heroic selflessness.
- Carry her to bed. No one can be sure why this
works, but it does.
- Stand up for her in public. The two of you
are enjoying a meal at a local small restaurant, and some loud
hill-jack in the table next to you pours out a steady stream of
obscenities. Walk over and ask him to watch his mouth around your
lady. Do it politely, and eight out of ten guys will apologize.
If he doesn’t, the proprietor will usually side with you.
- Keep her out of the mud. To men, dirt is dirty.
To women, dirt is uncomfortable. When it’s raining and you
both have to walk through mud do whatever is necessary to keep
her clean. Pull the car up closer, pick her up and carry her,
or throw your jacket down for her to walk on. It’s old and
classic, but it’s worth it. The jacket will only last a
few years anyway. Her memory of it will never die.
None of these will make you a hero. Heroism is something you either
have or you don’t. But forming these habits will help her
remember that you do have it, and you’re ready to act when
the time comes.
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